The Gray Center has been working to promote social understanding since 1998. Our efforts are a continuation and expansion of the work of Carol and Brian Gray, who have devoted their entire careers to promoting social understanding. Since October, 2006, I have sent out a weekly article (The SUN News initially, and now Social Incites™) to give thousands of people around the world new or remodeled ideas for promoting social understanding in the home, school, workplace, and community.
But when and how do we teach social understanding to our children? Is this another subject which must share time and space with important academics such as math, science, and reading? With standardized tests or summer vacation looming, is "social understanding" relegated to a quick discussion during the lunch hour or in a once-a-year assembly? Do the kids with "special needs" get pulled out of the classroom to attend a "social understanding group" with the resource room teacher or the school psychologist while their classmates go about their usual daily activities? Do parents conduct a "social understanding" discussion with their children in the same way that they might finally schedule an uncomfortable session on "the birds and the bees?" Don't get me wrong--any time devoted to teaching social understanding is time well-spent. However, in my opinion, social understanding is not the icing on the cake; it should be the platter on which the cake and frosting are securely resting! It takes only a few extra minutes to talk with children about why people do things, how others feel when we use certain words or act in a particular manner, why they or others struggle with some tasks or activities, how they can use their abilities to help others, what they can do differently in future situations, etc. When we do so consistently and constantly throughout our daily lives, we build a solid framework which children can refer to and learn from as they evaluate what they're seeing, hearing, saying, doing, and feeling. I believe that if every parent, teacher, bus driver, administrator, counselor, psychologist, babysitter, grandparent--every individual--commits to modeling and teaching social understanding, that incidences of "anti-social understanding" (bullying, prejudice, intolerance, and more) will become significantly less. And opportunities for success will greatly increase for everyone!
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Social IncitesSocial Incites™ are insights which incite (encourage) personal and interpersonal growth. Social Incites™ are written by Laurel Hoekman, Certified Family Life Educator, Certified Employment Training Specialist, Social Coach, Consultant, and Registered Social Service Technician (Michigan). For 15 years, Laurel was the Executive Director of The Gray Center for Social Learning and Understanding, and has also been a CASA volunteer (Court Appointed Special Advocate for children who are abused and neglected). She is passionate about helping individuals and families (including those affected by autism spectrum disorders) identify and achieve their goals, particularly in building and maintaining effective social connections. Archives
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